I want to talk to you about the act of forgiving. Being able to forgive and move on is a really important thing to be able to do if you want to be truly happy. Forgiveness is basically a conscious decision to let go of grudges, bitterness and resentment you might feel toward someone as …
Do you remember the story about the little engine who could? I loved this book as a kid and read it to my kids too. It was a classic Little Golden Book. This book was all about the little engine learning that he had to believed that he could do something to make it happen.
Did you know that the language you use reveals so much about what’s going on in your brain - what you believe?
How do you make decisions? Not the what are you going to have for dinner type decisions but the bigger more important decisions in your life? You know like should you take that job offer, do you start that business you have been dreaming about, do you leave your partner. Stuff like that.
Are you a pro’s and con’s lister? Are you a consult everyone else and see what they thing is right for you kinda person? Do you toss a coin?
You only have so many hours in each day, so many days in each month and so many months in each year. No matter how you try you can’t change it. It can be so easy to try and squeeze too much in – too many commitments, too many distractions, too many things – more than you could ever hope to have time for. Over time these things just seem to creep in one by one, often without us really noticing. Then one day we realise we are w-a-a-a-a-y over stretched. Maybe you feel frazzled, exhausted or short tempered most of the time. Know what I mean?
I have a confession. I think I have fallen into a bit of a rut. Doing the same things and being comfortable in my life. This isn’t a scandalous confession I know, but I think I’m a little bored and I need to shake things up a bit. I have decided I want to create more fun in my life. I want to laugh more (sometimes until I cry and my stomach hurts), do new things, be daring, be playful, be more like a child and find the awe and wonder in things.
How much fun do you have in your life right now? I’m not talking about nice and comfortable – I am talking about REALLY FUN?
Life is short. You should enjoy it.
Got some unfinished goals?
One of the things I’ve noticed through my own experience and working with my clients is that some people have a pattern of starting strong with something (working out, learning a new skill, eating healthy) but then tend to struggle to maintain motivation and it all fizzles out before they have achieve what they really wanted.
How often do you compare yourself to other people? How they look, what they do, how much money they have, how happy they are . . . . . .
How does it make you feel?
We all do it. Comparison can be such an ingrained habit that we don’t really notice how often we do it.
There really is no value in comparing yourself and your life to anyone else. Everyone is different, everyone has different values and dreams. No-one is perfect, everyone has their own problems to overcome.
Do you ever find yourself with so much stuff running around in your head you just can’t think straight anymore? It might be decisions you need to make, things you should do but haven’t, issues you are having with people in your life – you know stuff like that.
I do – sometimes to the point that I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep.
If you know what I am talking about you will probably also know how quickly you can find yourself in a spiral that feels really hard to get out of. One of the things I’ve found that works for me is journaling - getting the thoughts out of my head and onto paper.