Hello, I’m Tammi. I know how hard, messy and scary some endings can be. I’ve had my share of them. Some I never thought I’d get through, but I did. It’s these experiences that have led me here. To create a space where I can support other women who are struggling to move forward in their life.
When my marriage ended after 26 years I had no idea what was ahead of me. My world was turned upside down. It felt like I had been picked up and dumped by an enormous wave. I felt powerless, thrown around, unable to tell which way was up, alone, exhausted and afraid I wouldn’t ever make it out the other side. While I tried not to panic, sometimes I couldn’t stop that feeling overwhelming me. I had no home of my own, I wasn’t sure how I’d manage financially, some people I thought were friends just disappeared. I lost my self-confidence. I felt out of my depth is so many ways.
I put my best game face on and everyone commented on how well I was doing. The truth was that I was an absolute mess inside. I cried a lot and often when I was by myself.
Before my marriage ended I was already working as a coach and mentor. I had learnt a lot about personal growth. I’d studied Reiki and other energy work modalities. I had a pretty strong sense of who I was and what was important to me. I thought that with all of that knowledge and experience behind me I’d be able to work through my separation and create my new life. I didn’t expect it would be easy but I thought I’d be ok. I know for sure that all of my knowledge and experience did help me. But even with all of that it was the feeling of doing it all on my own that was so overwhelming, so isolating.
I had a few friends and family members who provided me with support when I needed it. I am very grateful to them, without them it would have been even harder. But what I really wanted, what I needed, was to have someone to talk to who wasn’t just going to say what they though I needed or wanted to hear. Someone who I could be completely honest with about how I was falling apart and had no idea how to move forward. Someone who wouldn’t judge me. Someone to help me find some clarity and focus in all of my confusion.
I couldn’t find that when I needed it, which is why I now do what I do. I don’t want other women to feel overwhelmed, lost and isolated when some big change happens in their life. Whether it’s a relationship ending, or needing to end, a work or career change, a health related change, a family change – really anything unexpected or mess that life might throw at you – I can help you to start again.
Slowly but surely I found my way and was able to create my new beginning. I have my lovely new home in a wonderful small community. I have wonderful people in my life. I know that I can handle anything life throws at me. I can be whoever I want to be.